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David and I have been dating for a year and ~almost~ two months (woah), but 8 of those 14 months have been long distance. Last week my roommates and I were talking about how they forget that I'm in a long distance relationship and that I handle my relationship really well (thanks guys).

I have to be honest I almost didn't even give our relationship a chance when he asked to date me in November 2017. I was so fearful of what it would be like after David graduated. While it isn't always easy, I am so glad I said yes.

One of the biggest challenges now is that I knew what life in college was like with him and life in college was so fun. When we weren't in class we spent almost all day every day together. Now, we try to see each other twice a month but our time together is contained to Fridays around 5 p.m. until Sunday mornings around 10 a.m.

My biggest tips for people entering long distance relationships is to figure out what communication works best for you when you are apart. David and I text a majority of every day. It can be hard because when he's getting off work around 4:30/5 a lot of my Kappa Delta activities pick up and I may not always be able to text him (which I don't think bothers him, but I just want to talk to him all the time). Once or twice a week when we both have down time we call each other and talk. I have found this to work the best for us and our schedules.

When we do visit each other I try to make the weekend special. We usually go to a coffeeshop, get Mexican food, and/or visit estate sales. We also try to hang out with our mutual friends in the KC area. One time we even went to Top Golf with our friend Johan (I learned I am very bad at golf).

I am also working on trying to put my phone down and enjoying the moments I get with David because I am guilty of feeling like I have to respond to every text message or email instantly. This weekend in particular I'm challenging myself to turn my phone off and not feel bad for not responding to messages.

If you're entering into a long distance relationship it isn't as hard as you think if you just plan accordingly and communicate often. It's honestly pretty motivating to put a countdown in my phone and planner of when I get to see David next.

Until next time,
Taylor xx